At one time, I seemed to have it all. I had never NOT been in a relationship. I had always been successful in my career whatever I tried, journalism, not-for-profit, higher education. I had owned property since my early 20s and was well read and well travelled.
I taught yoga as a side hustle and booked out events and workshops consistently. While I didn't think of myself as super successful, my life looked like I had it all together.
But inside it was a mess. It seems inevitable in hindsight that the marriage ended, and when it all fell over, I didn't even know where to look to start again.
Beginning from scratch in a new state and starting my own business sounds exciting but left me feeling battered, bruised and broken.
I felt overwhelming guilt, shame and remorse for the failure of my marriage, and I was so busy trying to get my business off the ground I had no time to build a social life in my new city let alone go on any dates.
Also, I was hopelessly naive. I had literally never been on a date and had no idea what a sex life looked like for single people.
It was base camp zero.
Have you experienced anything like this?
I stopped feeling sexy and caring about my body began to feel like a remote concept. Most days I dived deep into my business to keep me busy and in the evenings I would work late and then drink wine to numb out the pain of my memories and loneliness. I had a couple of friends and family members, who knew to check up on me and make sure I was still (mostly) ok.
But it started to fall apart. I felt unsupported by everyone, by money, and by the universe. I considered giving up and plotted working in a bakery or leaving and running away overseas.
Then I discovered Tantra. Through learning to work with my body and sexuality I slowly regained my self esteem. Connecting with my body in a loving way was the missing piece. I have never experienced anything as powerful for positively affecting my life.
In 2016 I undertook a 600 hour certification training with the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality and I have never looked back.
In 2018 founded my coaching business, helping people overcome past anxieties and emotional struggles around sex, love and relationships in February 2018.
Don't wait until things fall apart to invest in yourself and/or your relationship.
- You are worthy and deserve deep happiness and love.
- We can heal no matter what we have faced.
- Anything is possible with enough love and energy behind it!
I have seen it in my life and in many, many others since.
If things are not working in your love life or relationship or you just know there's more to life than what you're currently experiencing, don't wait until a catastrophe. Take the steps to save your relationship. Support yourself to be fully empowered and reinvent your life on your own terms.
Dare to see what's possible and I promise you, you will never regret it.
Ruth is the founder of Intimacy for Intrepid Souls and an Integrated Love, Sex and Relationships coach, writer, yoga teacher, speaker and feminine energy expert.
She has spent a decade and over 10,000 hours of teaching, studying and personal experience to create powerful offerings for people wanting to improve their intimate lives.
Her programs draw on this extensive experience and training. Ruth integrates ancient Tantric, yoga and Tsoaist practices (breath work, eye gazing and jade egg are examples) practices with modern teachings from psychology and science on emotions, attachment, trauma, and the brain to bring light to our sexual shadow and healing on a level that is relevant to the particular challenges of our modern lives.
Ruth is approachable, warm, real, deeply respectful and funny. She is dedicated to teaching the you tools you need to thrive in your sex, love, relationships and life.