What Story Do You Tell About Your Life?

Life Is Too Short For A Lousy Story

It was my father’s 70th birthday this weekend. Three generations of family gathered to celebrate my old man. You can imagine the photos and the stories.

What I really noticed about all of this was how much our experience of life has to do with the story we tell ourselves (and everyone else) about it. In coaching we call it creating an “empowered narrative”. 

In many ways, this is when we truly start living. It’s not about making excuses or pretending, it’s about romanticising, choosing, and being present for our own lives. This is relevant for all of our lives but it is especially important when it comes to how we feel about ourselves, our relationships and our sex lives. 

I first encountered this idea when I was working in a community rehabilitation centre for people with acquired brain injury. In a workshop, clients were encouraged to think about their life like a movie, with themselves as the movie director.

At the time, I was in my mid twenties and struggling with health issues and depression. I had been trying to make myself to be positive and grateful - but this perspective changed things and made it a lot easier. Instead of wishing things weren’t the way they were I could see them like I was reading it in a book or watching it in a movie and suddenly it seemed interesting and profound and, even when it felt crappy... beautiful.

The next time it happened was my divorce. It felt like the end of the world but I wasn't going to let my story be defined by this. That break up led to me to discover so many more people in my life cared about me than I had ever guessed. It led to falling in love with coaching, Tantra, and my current partner. It also led to me falling in love with myself for the first time in my life. 

Many people love biographies, and we are all living one right now! So how can we appreciate our story, even as we live it?

Some examples: 

  • Fighting with your partner a lot? We both work really hard and are passionate people - OF COURSE sparks will fly sometimes!

  • Daily commuting? Imagine this in the movie - cute and fun, a shared community experience particular to where you live.

  • Lots of different lovers but all end in heartbreak? Quite a story! Maybe you want to write in a twist, but you can still see how this could be a romantic heroine’s tale.

  • Feel funny about your body, ageing, sexuality? Own it! So often people tell me ab

This is what I was reminded of at the birthday party, even those of us who had not spoken to each other for 10 years or have completely different lives now - the arguments, struggles, changes, gains and losses, all of these things change and seem different when we see them as part of a bigger story. 

I hope this gives you a fresh way to glimpse your own amazing life or some food for thought for how your story could be. What will you do next?!

So much love
Ruth

Shift Your Mindset Summit

Hey everyone

This is a special post to let you know about an amazing free series I got to be part of in September.

It's aimed at mum's but there's actually also a TON of gold in here for anyone interested in health and mindset.  

If you’re like most Moms, you may feel like you’re always on the go, short on patience and that taking care of your body is just another thing you are supposed to do but don’t have time for. Maybe you are having thoughts like…

  • I don’t have enough energy to keep up with my kids.

  • I wish I had the confidence to hop into that photo too… [or maybe something else health-related but not weight loss related]

  • I want to lose weight and be healthy for my family but feel like that will never actually happen…

This is why I want to introduce you to my colleague Susannah. A few years ago she underwent an intense 10-hour surgery to remove a large brain tumour (luckily benign!). After the surgery, her mind was plagued with negative thoughts like:

  • Will I ever get my body back?

  • The only thing that makes me feel better is food…

  • Will these headaches will ever go away? Am I going to be like this for the rest of my life?

 For months, she struggled with her recovery and was unsure whether she’d ever overcome her negative thinking, lose the weight she gained and return to the person she was before.

✨Susannah learned firsthand how essential controlling the thoughts in our head are for success; no matter what our goals are in life.✨  

It is for this reason that she decided to host a FREE online summit: ‘Shift Your Mindset: How Moms can command and transform their thoughts to achieve optimum weight, energy and health.’

Sign up to attend this free series all about HOW to shift your Mindset for abundant health!

Susannah interviewed over 20 experts - including me!  These short 30-minute interviews are gold and will help you shift out of any habits that hold you back and shift you into a space of motivation and transformation. 

In this series you’ll learn how to:

  • Break free from all-or-nothing thinking (and eating!)

  • Create a Wildly Alive body and mind

  • Clear out negative, self-limiting thoughts AND ‘Mom Brain’ for abundant health

  • Trust your body and regain your love for it too

After her surgery, Susannah realized how important getting healthy is - both in body and in mind. Because life is short and we need to take action today.  Register NOW to begin your own personal transformation into the fantastic version of YOU that you were born to be!

Sign up here for your FREE spot https://www.shiftyourmindsetsummit.com/

Lots of love,
Ruth