If you had been with me in my early 20s you would have seen me living in London, having landed my dream job almost by accident on a backpacking trip. I was fresh out of university and found myself working as Executive PA to the CEO of Comic Relief. To say it was a learning curve would be an understatement.
I had cool new friends, a boyfriend I adored, travelled loads and kept fit. It looked great on the outside. But on the inside I was a mess.
I was stressed out, ground my teeth at night and was constantly anxious.
Luckily for me the company I worked for started offering lunchtime yoga classes, and I quickly fell in love. When I returned to Australia I trained to be yoga teacher and started teaching on the side.
My career was going well and by now I was managing a team building a national Aviation Research Network based in the Queensland University of Technology. I loved it!
But there was still something missing.
I was still exhausted and stressed out a lot. I wondered just how much yoga I would have to do to fix this! When I heard a podcast one day by an expert in yoga for women’s health I signed up on the spot. It was with Sara Avant Stover, one of the world’s leaders in the field of women's yoga and spirituality. Over the next few years I did ALL the courses and read all the books on this topic! I studied with Sara for over a year and completed her certification training.
But in the midst of this my personal life fell apart. My marriage ended and in a bid to reinvent myself I moved interstate, quit my job and started teaching yoga full time.
Coming out of a divorce, beginning from scratch in a new state and starting my own business sounds exciting but left me feeling battered, bruised and broken.
I felt overwhelming guilt, shame and remorse for the failure of my marriage, and I was so busy trying to get my business off the ground I had no time to build a social life in my new city let alone go on any dates.
Have you experienced anything like this?
I stopped feeling sexy and caring about my body began to feel like a remote concept. Most days I dived deep into my business to keep me busy and in the evenings I would work late and then drink wine to numb out the pain of my memories and loneliness. I had a couple of friends and family members, who knew to check up on me and make sure I was still (mostly) ok.
But it started to fall apart. I felt unsupported by everyone, by money, and by the universe. I considered giving up and plotted working in a bakery or leaving and running away overseas.
Then I discovered Layla Martin. Through Tantra and learning to work with my body and sexuality I regained my self esteem. It was the missing piece. I have never experienced anything as powerful for positively affecting my life.
In 2016 I undertook a 600 hour certification training with the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality. I founded Intimacy for Intrepid Souls, helping people overcome past anxieties and emotional struggles around sex, love and relationships in February 2018.
Happiness and love are possible.
We can heal no matter what we have faced.
I have seen it in my life and in many, many others since.
If you're suffering or just know there's more to life than what you're currently experiencing, don't wait until a catastrophe. Dare to see what's possible and I promise you, you will never regret it.
Ruth is the founder of Intimacy for Intrepid Souls and an Integrated Love, Sex and Relationships coach, writer, yoga teacher, speaker and feminine energy expert.
She has spent a decade and over 10,000 hours of teaching, studying and personal experience to create powerful offerings for people wanting to improve their intimate lives.
Her programs draw on this extensive experience and training. Ruth integrates tantric and Tsoaist practices (breath work, eye gazing and jade egg are examples) practices with modern teachings from psychology and science on emotions, attachment, trauma, and the brain to bring light to our sexual shadow and healing on a level that is relevant to the particular challenges of our modern lives.
Ruth is approachable, warm, real, deeply respectful and funny. She is dedicated to teaching the you tools you need to thrive in your sex, love, relationships and life.