My Story

I believe we all have a unique spark inside that we can turn on to light up our lives and our relationships.

My journey has been always bridged the mainstream and esoteric paths. It has taken me from a career in project management and academia, to exploring yoga and meditation, to specialist studies in women’s spirituality.

I always thought if I did enough self work and worked hard enough, I would succeed at whatever I tried. But when my 15 year marriage ended and trying hard wasn’t enough, I was forced to question everything.

I found the answers I was looking for while studying at the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality. This one year, 600 hour intensive training program was a deep dive into love, relationship and sexuality. As I learned to guide others, I learned what I already knew intuitively to be true - that we are in highest service of ourselves and others when we nourish and cherish our own spark.

This is what makes life more than just living. This is what keep relationships thriving and makes us fall more in love every day.

To truly stay lit up, we have to come home to our bodies. This is where our soul lives. Where we connect with others. Where our strength and sparkle and essence reside. Now I desire for you to come home to your body too so that you can feel radiant and lit up and know how to keep that fire stoked and strong.

Contact me if you are ready to rekindle your spark and light up your life, whether you are single or in a relationship!



Ruth Sowter is an Self Love and Resilinece Coach (officially an Integrated Love, Sex and Relationships coach), writer, yoga teacher and speaker.

She has spent a decade and over 10,000 hours of teaching, studying and personal experience to create powerful offerings for people wanting to improve their  intimate lives.

After a successful career in academia and research project coordination, Ruth discovered coaching and mindset work and eventually decided to share her obsession with the world, completing 600 hour certification with the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality to become one of the top 5% of transformational coaches in sex, love and relationships in the world. 

Her programs combine her powerful analytical skills AND her creative and intuitive strengths (ie, she sees between the lines) and draw on her extensive  and diverse experience and training both in the corporate and personal development worlds.

Ruth integrates modern psychology and behavioural science with traditional wisdom from yoga, Tantra, and Tsoaism to get crystal clear on goals and desires, heal past emotional wounding, and release blockages, as any good coach will. What make her coaching different is that she works with the body AND the mind for deeper, more powerful results and shifts. 

Ruth believes people are happy when they have great relationships (and a great sex life!) in their lives, and the more happy people there are in the world, the better place it will be for all living things.

To learn more about Ruth's credentials see her LinkedIn profile here