Ruth is the founder of Intimacy for Intrepid Souls and an Integrated Love, Sex and Relationships coach, writer, yoga teacher, speaker and feminine energy expert.
She has spent a decade and over 10,000 hours of teaching, studying and personal experience to create powerful offerings for people wanting to find or improve their intimate lives. She is one of the most qualified and experienced feminine energy experts you will find having studied and/or worked with Sara Avant Stover (The Way of The Happy Women), Alissa Vitta (WomanCode), Jennifer Racioppi and Christiane Northrup.
Most recently she completed training with the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality.
Her programs draw on this extensive experience and training. Ruth integrates tantric and Tsoaist practices (breath work, eye gazing and jade egg are examples) practices with modern teachings from psychology and science on emotions, attachment, trauma, and the brain to bring light to our sexual shadow and healing on a level that is relevant to the particular challenges of our modern lives.
Ruth is approachable, warm, real, deeply respectful and funny and is dedicated to giving you the tools you need to go forth and thrive in your intimate life.
If you had been with me in my early 20s you would have seen my wide eyed, having landed my dream job in London almost by accident on a backpacking trip.
I had wonderful new friends, a boyfriend I adored, what I thought was a healthy lifestyle (gym, running, coffee). It looked great on the outside. But on the inside I was a mess. I was stressed out, ground my teeth at night and was constantly terrified I was about to drop a ball at work.
Luckily for me the company I worked for started offering lunchtime yoga classes, and I quickly fell in love and discovered to my delight I was capable of relaxing, somewhat. I got addicted and when I returned to Australia a few years later I set about training to be a yoga teacher.
I started teaching corporate yoga classes as a side gig and my career again took off, this time in the research sector, in ways I hadn’t expected. But there was still something missing. I was still exhausted and stressed a lot of the time. I had mood swings and cramps every month, and I wondered just how much yoga I would have to do to fix this! When I heard a podcast one day by an expert in yoga for women’s health my interest was piqued and I signed up to work with her - Sara Avant Stover, one of the world’s leaders in the field. Over the next few years I voraciously did all the courses and read all the books on this topic! I studied with Sara for over a year and certified to teach retreats. My health improved and I had a whole new perspective and way of being in the world.
But in the midst of this my personal life fell apart. My marriage ended and in a bid to reinvent myself I moved interstate, quit my job and started teaching yoga full time.
Coming out of the aftermath of a brutal divorce and starting afresh in a new state while starting my own business all sounds exciting but left me facing life with no reference points, feeling battered and bruised, and anything but sexy and confident. I felt like an epic loser destined to die alone with cats.
I felt so much guilt, shame and remorse for the end or my marriage, and I was so busy trying to get my business off the ground I had no time to build a social life in my new city let alone go on any dates.
Have you been there? I stopped feeling sexy and caring about my body began to feel like a remote concept. Most days I dived deep into my business to keep me busy and in the evenings I would work late and then drink wine to numb out the pain of my memories and loneliness. I did have a couple of friends and family members, who knew to check up on me and make sure I was still (mostly) ok.
But it started to fall apart. I felt unsupported by everyone, by money, and by the universe. I considered giving up and pondered if I could work in a bakery or just leave and run away overseas.
Then I discovered Layla Martin. I discovered Tantra and regained my self esteem. It was the missing piece. I have never experienced anything as powerful for positively affecting my life. And I hadn’t really experienced anything yet!
In 2016 I undertook a year and half of study to certify with the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality and in 2018 I graduated. I have never looked back.
I never would have believed I could be so much happier today that I have ever been. That I could have so much optimism for people and life. That every day could be a pleasure and that I could know for sure I have the power to create exactly what I want in my life.
But I don’t want you to take my word for it - I want you to try it!
but also, WHY?...
Have you ever had a moment in life where you feel like everything you know is wrong?
I have had a few.
My parents went through a slow marriage demise and nasty divorce when I was 14, and I decided then the only thing I really wanted was to prove it didn't have to be like that. I knew from early on, that the quality of our relationships that defines the quality of our lives. I was determined to find out how to have the best relationships possible.
The truth is that life, and especially sex and relationships, comprise a set of skills we just don't get taught. Many of us are living on autopilot, racing from one thing to the next, veering between feeling like we are never doing enough, seeking distraction, numbing out, or looking for the next thrill. Very rarely are we in the present moment.
Add to that, we all carry conditioning and socialising we have acquired as children or from society that create deep held patterns within our psyche that dictate how we think we should work, how we should feel, and what our relationships should look like. All of this can hold us back from the love and life we want.
The cultural messages we receive about relationships are impossible to satisfy
- if you're single, you're a bit of a failure
- if you're in a relationship, you've been trapped
- anything less than an instant soulmate connection is settling
- sex is dangerous (don't get an STI)
- you need to master 160 different sexual positions and date lots of people before you settle down
- but don't be a slut
- things like tantra, open relationships, kink and exploration are fine for celebrities but if you try them you're a deviant
- passion inevitably fades
- but don't be boring
- if someone cheats, it means it was a bad relationship and should be ended (unless you're a royal or in politics. or in a band. everyone else should split)
- and last but not least, gene theory tells us men are driven to spread their genes as widely as possible, while making sure their mate is only carrying their child, while women are driven to try and trap men into being providers, while if possible sneaking in the odd extra man to make sure she gets the fittest mate. It's not a nice picture! And it's only one perspective on the evolution of human relations.
It's time for a new narrative!
In my life and with my clients I have seen again and again that we choose what we create in our lives and we can create and co-create relationships as we want them to be. That when we slow down everything becomes clearer, more vivid and more tactile. That we can create relationships that exceed 'not ending' and 'finding someone' as benchmarks of success and let us define what we want and how that should look.
We choose what we create
And most importantly, that we can learn how to live so that we achieve what truly satisfies us, feel all the feels and still come out smiling, thrive and feel more and deeper connection and love in our lives whatever our relationship status.
Work with me and I will teach you techniques and strategies you can start using immediately to reconnect with yourself, get your shit together, and to get into life with such a zest that you can't wait to meet your next partner or tear the clothes off your current one.