Have you ever had a week that changed your life?

Hi yogis

As yogis, we are always looking to explore and learn about ourselves but this last week felt like a leg up to new possibilities for my life and business.

I had the privilege of joining 9 women from all over the world for an Abundant Yoga Teachers retreat, run by my friend and mentor, Australian yoga teacher and business coach Amy McDonald. It was held in rural Thailand at the International Women’s Partnership for Peace and Justice.

We stayed in simple but elegant accommodation and followed a schedule of morning yoga, business workshops, one-to-one coaching, meditation and of course meals – local farm to table produce, all vegetarian and all delicious!

The theme of the retreat was ‘abundance mentality’ – something that doesn’t always come naturally to yogis, especially those of us who have grown up believing austerity to be the noble path. Let’s just say it was an at-times emotional journey!

Have you ever done something that you hated all the way through, only to be SO GLAD you did it afterwards?

We practiced yoga every morning as the sun rose over the rice paddies. It was a challenging practice and I was sore a lot of the time! But it left me with a renewed commitment to my own practice. If you want to make your life better, get a home practice. Not to replace going to yoga classes or the gym or crossfit or whatever you thing is, but as a foundation to support you in your work, relationships and health.

Especially because it’s when it’s most difficult for me to practice that is when I need it most. When I’m stupidly busy, or exhausted, or stressed out or anxious or overwhelmed and the last thing I want to do is get out of bed and roll my mat out. One of my friends laughingly told me she hates her morning practice – until it’s over! That’s when she feels the benefit. The calm. The lightness. Focus. Clarity.

Don’t believe my bold claims? Try it for yourself and I promise you will not regret it. I have a special offer for first time clients at the moment and we can work live or via Skype.

Now I have another week doing a mix of things for work and pleasure in Chiang Mai. Tomorrow I'll be making mud bricks in the jungle, helping build a retreat centre for activists. Life is never dull!

Take care

Ruth

Is it ok to be happy?

Have you ever come out of a yoga class feeling so much better you wonder how you can be the same person as before?

Sometimes, we can be so in the habit of being busy or grumpy that it’s become our default. We find every day annoying at best. We have somehow become married to the belief that life is always a struggle and we only feel happy for short bursts here and there.

I’ve noticed this tendency in myself and my students, and I’ve come to realise that there are lots of reasons we actually curtail our own happiness and contentment. Some that spring to mind are: 

·      Out of habit

·      Comraderie – sometimes when everyone around us is having a bad time, we feel like more a team player or more caring to share the negativity

·      Guilt – we feel bad that we’re happy when someone else isn’t

·      Because we’ve learned to be ‘good’ – good parents, good children, good managers or employees – we show we take our responsibilities seriously by working too hard and being very serious 

All noble intentions but here’s the question, do we really help anyone by making sure we’re not too happy? We don’t have to have to tap dance on the desk of a depressed colleague, but we can learn there are other ways of being connected and supportive of people around us than going down if they do. Truth is, we don’t help anyone by doing this.  

This was really the only way I knew to show people I cared about them for years. Depressed? I’ll cry alongside you to show my empathy. I might even go deeper because that’s how much I feel your pain – even more than my own pain! It didn’t really occur to me that there was an alternative, let alone that by allowing myself to be happy sometimes, I was showing that this is possible, which is good for the people around me. If someone was irritated or challenged by me being happy, maybe that wasn’t a bad thing.

As an experiment, for the next few days, let the possibility of happy moments slip in to your life. It doesn’t mean your life will be perfect at all. It doesn’t mean you won the lottery or got a promotion. It’s about noticing the moments of pleasure when you have your morning coffee, or noticing a flower blooming on the way to work. Maybe someone smiles at you on the street or you have a particularly good avocado for lunch.

So yes, you are the same person before and after yoga! And it’s ok to be happy.

Lots of love

Ruth