It’s funny how vibrators are considered totally acceptable, but people still freak out about jade eggs.

It’s funny how vibrators are considered totally acceptable and normal these days, but people still freak out about jade eggs.

Yes, there are some people working with jade or yoni eggs you can find who are a bit ‘out there’ and make some big claims.

Not unlike yoga. Or meditation. Or even a lot of business development people these days.

What is a jade egg? It’s a little gemstone egg women put into their vaginas and do yoga with. There are also yoni eggs which can be from other gemstones, but the benchmark safest eggs to use are made of high quality jade.

Most of the people kicking up a fuss about how bad the eggs are make it obvious in what they say that they don’t understand how the eggs are meant to be used.

But shaming women for trying something to enhance their relationship with their own bodies and sexuality says a lot about our society. It’s ok to get off. It’s not ok to get too deep and spiritual about it.

What I know is that the jade egg is one of the best tools I’ve ever seen for helping women learn about and love their bodies.

Which to me, makes it a tragedy if any women get put off trying it.

But I also get the fears. It took me years to come around to the idea of trying it. I would imagine myself in a room full of other women, eggs in hand, and my mind ended it right there. When I realised I could learn it all online, I felt a lot safer.

The truth about jade egg practice... it really is a lot like yoga.

• You want to learn it from someone who knows what they’re doing, preferably with an actual qualification, not just someone who is passionate, because they will teach you how to do it safely and explain the hows and whys

• You might not think a lot is happening to start with but you get better at it and you feel more and more

• It is astonishingly powerful for creating self love and self acceptance

• The health of your entire pelvis improves as you gain more muscle tone and awareness

Like yoga, the list of benefits could go on for pages as there are lots of different ways you can use the egg.

Before I did my first jade egg course, I don’t think I had ever felt self love. It crept up on me by surprise about 2 weeks in, and it was blissful. I was happy for no good reason, but I realised then, our relationship with our bodies and sexuality has a much bigger impact than we might logically think.

Even with this, I still didn’t see myself teaching it. But you know what, it’s too good not to. I see so many women with up and down body relationships and I know how much this could change things for them.

I’ll be sharing my new online beginners/refresher course in the next couple of weeks and doing a free live Q&A next week to share all the details. Feel free to pm me if you have any questions beforehand.

Why Your Desires Are Important

If there’s one message I want everyone to know, it’s this.

You are allowed to have your desires. They’re not silly or unimportant. They’re more important for quality of life and spiritual meaning of existence than you might think.

It’s ok to want to feel sensual. It’s ok to want to feel loved and safe and like you belong. It’s ok to want to feel good in your body and amazing as a man or woman. It’s to want to feel fully accepted and free. It’s totally ok to want to have relationships that feel deep and connected and passionate.

One of things that surprised me the most in studying human sexuality was how much there is profound dignity in owning our bodies and sensuality. It’s like when we don’t, we are only part of ourselves.

When I reclaimed my sexuality, it was in the aftermath of divorce and really felt like I just had to own my shadow (failed marriage) and my sexuality because I wanted to one day date and to have worked through my guilt and shame enough for it to not define my life. It’s a cliche, but this breakdown became one of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve experienced.

But I would like for you to get this without necessarily major life upheaval!

Here’s the other thing, there’s no one way for happiness to look.  

Maybe for you, your truth is to be androgynous more than masculine or feminine. Maybe you’re craving validation that your sexuality doesn’t look like mainstream sexy, or that it’s ok if it does! It is all welcome. It is all valid.

When we don’t have free expression of our sexual/sensual side life can feel really hard. It can feel like we are always struggling at some level and we might decide it’s easier to give up on certain things. I am not saying you can have everything, but I am saying there are ways to meet our needs with love so that we don’t feel life we have to give up on aspects of ourselves.

I’ll be sharing more over the next few weeks about HOW to connect with and start to follow your desires in a way that feels natural and easy.

I will also be sharing how to actually incorporate these practices into your life in a practical way because often we know what we should do, but it’s hard to manage to actually do it. I’ll share my personal practice, how my partner and I use the tools, and what’s worked for my clients.

I will show you how to build into your life practice that will strengthen and light up your relationship with yourself and your partner. I will show you how to explore things like sacred sexuality (alone or with a partner) without feeling it becomes all very serious or prescriptive.

If you’ve got questions in the meantime, do reach out. Otherwise I’ll talk to you soon!

With love

Ruth